The cozy part of Fall…Socks!
30 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
30 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
This one is to good not to share….
by Marc Chernoff
The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.
Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
Which means it’s time to…
1. Stop expecting them to agree with you.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that. You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours. In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else.
You have to dare to be yourself, and follow you own intuition, however frightening or strange that may feel or prove to be. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t get discouraged by their progress or success. Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose. Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.
2. Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.
Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.” It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy. When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.
3. Stop expecting (and needing) them to like you.
You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. No matter how good you are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you. Smile, ignore them, and carry on.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, the toughest battle you’ll ever have to fight is the battle to be yourself. And as you’re fighting back, not everyone will like you. Sometimes people will call you names because you’re “different.” But that’s perfectly OK. The things that make you different are the things that make YOU, and the right people will love you for it.
4. Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.
Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.
Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.
5. Stop expecting them to know what you’re thinking.
People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either.
In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that.
6. Stop expecting them to suddenly change.
If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.
For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them. (Read A New Earth.)
7. Stop expecting them to be “OK.”
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.
Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark. We are measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them. Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles. Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.
People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to. Hope for the best, but expect less. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.
27 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
27 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
My Momma turned me on to these handy little jewels. They are 100% easier to have in your backpack, purse, car, suitcase then Baby wipes. A tiny pill shaped object but when a couple of drops of water are dropped on it, it transforms into a sturdy towelette that can wipe a bum, face, hands like no ones business!
Watch this uber short video (love the sexy french music) on how it all happens.
You can purchase at Eco friendly stores, or camping stores or you can do what I do & go to Dollarama! Here’s what they look like.
27 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
I believe this style concept developed for me in the 70’s…Ali Macgraw’s style (Love Story is her claimed of fame) was one of my inspirations.
Below are styles I LOVE…black, silver concho belts, silver bangles, turquoise, navajo printed sweaters, leather, fringed anything (necklaces, jackets, purses), bead work, tall boots!
26 Sep 2013 Leave a comment
I was fortunate enough to have passed down to me an “Earth Machine”…sounds like a space ship right well this will not take you to the moon via rocket boosters & liquid hydrogen/oxygen but it will help you reduce the amount of household garbage you generate by 25% or more. It definitely takes a long time to cultivate “The Mother Soil” but I am enjoying the whole “Hug A Tree” factor.
Starting a compost pile is one of the best things you can do for your garden and the environment. Every piece of garbage that goes into the pile instead of the dumpster saves valuable landfill space and adds much needed nutrients to your soil.
Once you get a good pile going, you’ll start running into the same question over and over again, “Is this compostable?” More frequently than you might think, the answer might be yes. Pretty much anything organic (organic here meaning derived from a natural source, not just stuff from Whole Foods) can go in the compost pile.
Not too surprising…
1. Dead Houseplants
2. Fireplace ashes
3. Tea Bags and Coffee grounds (including the filters)
4. Seaweed and Kelp
5. Stale Bread and other grain products
7. Used paper towels and napkins
8. Paper grocery bags (balled up or ripped in pieces)
9. Dirt and grime of the bottom of your shoes and boots (or swept off the floor)
10. Droppings from any of your vegetarian critters: chickens or other birds, rabbits, hamsters, horses, sheep, cows, etc.
11. Paper towel and toilet paper rolls.
12. Miscellaneous cardboard, so long as it’s not waxed and has been ripped into pieces (good job for a bored kid): paper plates, pizza boxes, egg cartons, cereal boxes, you name it!
26 Sep 2013 2 Comments
It must be “Feed Me Thursday”…feeling the love in “The Bread Basket” this morn.
In my quest find a recipe with quinoa that I could actually choke down, I found the perfect recipe! Googling of course…by Kathy Strahs, this is what she had to say about her creation (I don’t have a panini press, I used my fry pan):
Spinach-Feta Quinoa Cakes with Lemon-Dill Yogurt Sauce is one of many healthy dinners I’m able to pull together in about 35 minutes with the help of my panini press. These savory grilled quinoa cakes take on the zesty flavors of a classic Greek spanakopita. Quinoa, as you may know, is a high protein “superfood,” so these cakes are just as good for you as they are delicious. They crisp up well on the grill, so there’s no need to sauté them in oil. Add a few dollops of cool lemon-dill yogurt sauce and you’ve got a tasty light meal.
Lemon-Dill Yogurt Sauce:
■1/2 cup plain Greek yogurt, reduced-fat or whole
■2 tablespoons finely chopped scallions (I didn’t have, I used chives)
■2 teaspoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
■2 teaspoons chopped fresh dill
■Coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper
■1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil
■1/2 cup finely chopped onion
■2 garlic cloves, finely chopped
■5 ounces chopped baby spinach
■2 large eggs, beaten
■1 1/4 cups cooked quinoa
■2 ounces crumbled feta cheese
■1 tablespoon chopped fresh dill
■1/4 teaspoon grated lemon zest (I didn’t put this in)
■1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
■1/2 cup bread crumbs
Lemon-Dill Yogurt Sauce:
1.Whisk together the yogurt, scallions, lemon juice, and dill in a small bowl. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Cover and refrigerate the sauce for at least 1 hour to allow the flavors to meld.
1.Heat the olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. Add the onion and garlic and cook, stirring often, until softened, about 4 minutes. Add the spinach and cook, stirring often, until wilted, about 3 minutes. Transfer the mixture to a medium-size bowl.
2.Add the eggs, quinoa, feta, dill, lemon zest, and black pepper and mix well. Mix in the bread crumbs and let the mixture sit for a few minutes to allow the bread crumbs to absorb some of the moisture.
3.Heat the panini press to medium-high heat.
4.Form quinoa patties about 2 1/2 inches in diameter and 1/2 inch thick. Place the patties on the grill, in batches if necessary, and close the lid. Grill the patties until they’re cooked through and browned on the outside, 4 to 5 minutes. Serve warm with lemon-dill yogurt sauce.