2 Easy Steps to Remembering You Are WORTH It!

proudWow…this is a gooder! Love the Dad in the story below…he values his daughter’s self worth! And BTW, never let your daughter go out with someone in a Black El Camino, even if he wasn’t honking the horn…duh!

by Hayley Hobson

Unfortunately, in our world, and I’m the first to admit it, we make value judgments about everything.
•We value goods based on their cost, where they were manufactured, and by whom.
•We value money and choose to spend it on certain things while not on others.
•We value time. Or, at least, I do, since it never seems like I have enough of it.
•We value energy expended. For example, if I’ve been working like a crazy person, I need to tone it down, or I’ll collapse or get sick.
•And since we know we are not going to be on this planet forever, we value our lives.

But there is something many of us may not value enough—our own self worth.

And it’s statements like the one above that prove my point.

Check it out. How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel worthy? If so, at what age did you learn about the concept?

The first time I ever had to face the value of my own self-worth was when I was sixteen years old.

I was a sophomore, infatuated with a senior in high school who had dated everyone under the sun. But somehow, miraculously, he began to notice me and finally asked me out.

But instead of walking up to my front door to pick me up, he pulled up in his black El Camino, honked the horn, and expected me to run out the door.

Clincher: there was no way my dad was letting me out the door unless that punk got out of his friggin’ car and treated me with the respect I deserved.

Geez Louise. I was so excited to just go out on my first date (with a senior, may I remind you) that I could give a donkey’s a$$ about being treated like a “lady.”

This was the guy I’d been dreaming about since I was a freshman, and now my dad was getting in the way of my plan.

And I was confused. Self-respect? Self-worth? WTF was that?

Maybe the fact that I had none at the time was apparent to my date. We had, what I thought, was the best make-out session of my life, but he didn’t call.

Day one went by, and all I could think about was him.

Day two and three went by, and I began to doubt myself and wonder what I did wrong.

After a week, with no call, I felt like a complete loser.

It seemed like he liked me when he wanted me to take my shirt off. I didn’t understand.

So I called him.

And when he didn’t return my call, I called him again.

And again.

Apparently, I didn’t want to see the unspoken message he was sending me.

And clearly, I didn’t value my own self-worth if I was chasing down a seventeen-year-old hoodlum who could give a sh*t about me.

Lesson learned eventually. After dozens of relationships.

So for those of you who are still having trouble holding your head high, feel devalued by others (or perhaps have daughters who need to learn), here are a few tips for you.

1. You Set the Bar

You got it. You do. You get to determine what you’re worth.

Now, don’t become a complete diva, but make a list and write down what you feel you deserve. And once you’ve compiled it, put it in a place you can see it and live by it.

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Let them follow by example.

2. Value Yourself

Interpretation: stop hanging around with deadbeats who are bringing you down. Stop lugging around the extra baggage.

Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you; let go of those that are not allowing you to grow.

I have just given you two quick and easy tips to help value your worth. What’s holding you back from seeing yourself as the fabulous person you are? What would it take for you to set your bar higher? I would love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below.

XO, Hayley

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