Adrenal Fatigue: Feeling Frazzled, Fatigued and Foggy?

stressI believe most women have suffered adrenal fatigue in their lifetime…I sure have. We take on to much, we have to much going on, something traumatic has happened, we don’t take care of our own needs….when finally the day is over & it’s time for relaxation but we can’t shut our minds down. We go over the day, what someone said, we think about the next day. This is how it starts and this is then what happens to our bodies..

The kidneys, stress hormones and emotions:
In energetic medicine the kidneys house the emotion of fear and therefore many symptoms of anxiety, depression and stress are exhibited when there is an adrenal or kidney weakness. The adrenals sit on top of the kidneys and produce cortisol when stressed. Cortisol is a stress hormone which contributes to feelings of tension, irritability and unease due to it irritating the nerve endings. The adrenal’s stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, as well as rennin angiotensin, also influence blood pressure. It is of benefit to try to reduce and manage stress so that there is a decrease in the production of stress hormones which atrophy the kidneys further and reduce filtration.
Shakespeare…kidding, what I have learned from Darlene Balaz @ The Natural Flow To Health (you can find info on her clinic on Facebook or her website http://www.naturalflowtohealth.ca/en/)

Classic signs and symptoms of adrenal fatigue include:
•Fatigue and weakness, especially in the morning and afternoon
•A suppressed immune system
•Increased allergies
•Muscle and bone loss and muscular weakness
•Depression
•Cravings for foods high in salt, sugar or fat
•Hormonal imbalance
•Skin problems
•Autoimmune disorders
•Increased PMS or menopausal symptoms
•Low sex drive
•Lightheadedness when getting up from sitting or lying down
•Decreased ability to handle stress
•Trouble waking up in the morning, despite a full night’s sleep
•Poor memory

I won’t go into all the details of recooping but what I can tell you is now I know when my adrenals are saying “WTF!”…I can feel them (a gnawing ache in your low back…a good remedy is nutmeg oil), which let’s me know my stress level is going up (I need to supplement my adrenals & tell myself that Stress is “The Dark Shadow” & go hug a tree, go for a walk…do something to de-stress!
What I try to live by is shit is going to happen, it’s all in how I handle it that counts.

Hear’s Me Going On About Sugar Again….

If you have 45 minutes, this Fifth Estate show about sugar will make you think twice & encourage you to read labelling on food. Yesterday I looked at the cottage cheese label as I was topping it on what I thought was a healthy salad….10g of sugar in 1/2 cup! What!!!! 4 grams equals 1 teaspoon, so my healthy salad has just over 2 teaspoons of sugar on it!!! Sheesh!!!

Personal Growth…A Few Tidbit’s From Someone Who Has Lived Sadness & Rose Above It

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“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.”
―E.E. Cummings

The unfortunate thing about growth is that it rarely happens unless you’re really compelled to do it. What I mean is, unless shit hits the fan, you’ll continue to sit pretty. But as soon as things get so bad that you can’t ignore them anymore, you suddenly have no other choice but to dig deep and rise to the occasion. In this way, crisis becomes both a blessing and a curse.
First of all, whatever has taken you to the deep depths of sadness & misery there definitely is a mourning period where you have to swim in murky waters. You have to give yourself a time limit to be “as low as a snakes belly” may it be a year, 2 years, 6 months etc. Then you must start your swim up to sunny skies.

There are a few key things that I have used to help me along the road to better days. This takes a lot of work & I definitely am not on the Honor Roll for how long it took me to see the light of day but I know I feel better about myself & know I will be working on me until my days end …

1.Clear out the clutter in your heart and head…no happiness can start until you flush the schmegg out, only then can you start to create beautiful things. Write down everything that gets you down so they don’t have time to fester and poison your head. Explore your dreams and deepest desires, and find ways to make them part of your day-to-day activities. Dream big.

2.Knowing what’s really important to you and doing the things that make you happy are part of the journey of loving yourself. It’s less about simply trying to please other people, and more about uncovering what makes your blood sing and bubble with exuberance. You know you’re taking better care of yourself when your values, not other people’s actions, guide your lifestyle and decision-making.

3.Stop focusing on how stressed you are and remember how blessed you are. Complaining won’t change the outcome, but a positive attitude will. Life is too short to spend at war with yourself. Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Don’t let dumb little things break your happiness. Stop your own needless negativity!

4.The first step to living the life you want is leaving the life you don’t want. Let go of the past, is your first step towards happiness. You are not your past failures. You are not your past habits. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.
Stop being a prisoner of your past. Learn from your regrets, but do not punish yourself with them. Live beyond your petty, fleeting fears and focus on the profound possibilities that await your immediate attention.

5.Needless tolerations can bleed you dry and make it impossible for you to function effectively. You can’t live a happy, fulfilling life if you’re spending all your energy tolerating things that shouldn’t be tolerated. It’s time to put your foot down.

Life is change, but growth is optional. So choose wisely starting now. Let today be the first day of the rest of your new life…
Amen!!

Do Your Kids Respect You? 9 Ways to Change Their Attitude

parentIf I could only go back…..
I was a single parent, working full-time with a rambunctious little boy…I could have learned a lot from articles like posted below and from parents that have been through difficult times with their kids. I so many times felt like I was the only one going through this. To scared to look “imperfect”, I didn’t reach out. It’s hard to have the patience to deal with “issues concerning your child” in a busy day of multi tasking. My little angel & I were very similar in personalities which adds another interesting twist…we both wanted to be boss. He knew how to make me into a crazy ranting Momma & I let him. Hmmmm interesting you say? I loved this article by Janet Lehman, MSW, if I could have a “Do Over”, I would have a cheat sheet in my junk drawer to remind me of a few of these tidbit’s. Number 1 being “Don’t Take It Personal”! Lord…these are our kid’s, they know what makes us tick & if they can, they will wrap your ego around their little finger & go with it.

Do Your Kids Respect You? 9 Ways to Change Their Attitude
by Janet Lehman, MSW

We often forget that children aren’t born with a built-in sense of respect for others. While each child has a different personality, all children need to be taught to be respectful. From birth, kids learn to manipulate their world to get their needs met—this is natural. But it’s our job as parents to teach them respectful ways of doing this.

It’s important to remember that your child is not your friend—he’s your child. Your job is to teach him to be able to function in the world. This means teaching him to behave respectfully to others, not just you.

People wonder why kids have gotten so much more disrespectful these days—we see children and teens arguing with adults (or ignoring them outright), using foul language, copping an attitude, and not using manners or respecting those in authority. Sadly, this has become the norm for many children and teens. In my opinion, it really is a different world right now than the one we grew up in. Movies, music, video games and television all seem to glorify a disrespectful, angry, rude way of dealing with others. This means that in some ways we have to work harder as parents to teach our kids to be respectful. Added to this is the fact that parents are also busier than ever before, which makes it much harder to respond immediately to our kids. Let’s face it, it’s easier to let things slide when you’re worn out and stressed from working so hard.

Related: Is your child talking back, being rude, or ignoring you? How to change their behavior.

Another phenomenon that has increased over time: Many parents have a hard time looking at their kids in a realistic light. In some ways, our own parents were less defensive and more open to the fact that their kids were not “perfect.” I can’t overstate how important it is to be willing to look at your children realistically, noting both their strengths and their areas of weakness. This allows you to see inappropriate behavior as it happens and address it—and not make excuses or ignore it.

So how can you change the culture in your own house if disrespectful behavior is starting—or is already a way of life? Here are 9 things you can do as a parent today to start getting respect back from your kids.

1. Remember, your child is not your friend. It’s not about your child liking you or even thanking you for what you do. It’s important to remember that your child is not your friend—he’s your child. Your job is to coach him to be able to function in the world. This means teaching him to behave respectfully to others, not just you. When you think your child might be crossing the line, a good rule of thumb is to ask yourself, “Would I let the neighbor say these things to me? Would I let a stranger?” If the answer is no, don’t let your child do it, either. Some day when your child becomes an adult, your relationship may become more of a friendship, but for now, it’s your job to be his parent: his teacher, coach and limit setter—not the buddy who lets him get away with things.

Related: Does your child act like he’s in control of your house? Take back parental authority.

2. Catch disrespect early and plan ahead if you can. It’s good to catch disrespectful behavior early if possible. If your child is rude or disrespectful, don’t turn a blind eye. Intervene and say, “We don’t talk to each other that way in this family.” Giving consequences when your kids are younger is going to pay off in the long run. It’s really important as a parent if you see your child being disrespectful to admit it and then try to nip it in the bud. Also, if your child is about to enter the teen years (or another potentially difficult phase) think about the future. Some parents I know are already planning how they will address behavior as their ADD daughter (who is now 11) becomes a teenager. They’re learning skills to prepare for their interactions with her at a later time. This can only help them as they move forward together as a family.

3. Get in alignment with your mate. It’s so important for you and your mate to be on the same page when it comes to your child’s behavior. Make sure one of you isn’t allowing the disrespectful behavior while the other is trying to intercede. Sit down together and talk about what your bottom lines are, and then come up with a plan of action—and a list of consequences you might give—if your child breaks the rules.

4.Teach your child basic social interaction skills. It may sound old fashioned, but it’s very important to teach your child basic manners like saying “please” and “thank you.” When your child deals with her teachers in school or gets her first job and has these skills to fall back on, it will really go a long way. Understand that using manners—just a simple “excuse me” or “thank you”—is also a form of empathy. It teaches your kids to respect others and acknowledge their impact on other people. When you think about it, disrespectful behavior is the opposite, negative side of being empathetic and having good manners.

Related: How to create a “culture of accountability” in your family—and teach your kids to be responsible and respectful.

5. Be respectful when you correct your child. When your child is being disrespectful, you as a parent need to correct them in a respectful manner. Yelling and getting upset and having your own attitude in response to theirs is not helpful and often only escalates behavior. The truth is, if you allow their disrespectful behavior to affect you, it’s difficult to be an effective teacher in that moment. You can pull your child aside and give them a clear message, for example. You don’t need to shout at them or embarrass them. One of our friends was excellent at this particular parenting skill. He would pull his kids aside, say something quietly (I usually had no idea what it was), and it usually changed their behavior immediately. Use these incidents as teachable moments by pulling your kids aside calmly, making your expectations firm and clear, and following through with consequences if necessary.

6. Try to set realistic expectations for your kids around their behavior. This may actually mean that you need to lower your expectations. Don’t plan a huge road trip with your kids, for example, if they don’t like to ride in the car. If your child has trouble in large groups and you plan an event for 30 people, you’re likely to set everyone up for disappointment and probably an argument!

If you are setting realistic expectations and you still think there might be some acting-out behaviors that crop up, set limits beforehand. For example, if you’re going to go out to dinner, be clear with your kids about what you expect of them. This will not only help the behavior, but in some ways will help them feel safer. They will understand what is expected of them and will know what the consequences will be if they don’t meet those expectations. If they meet your goals, certainly give them credit, but also if they don’t, follow through on whatever consequences you’ve set up for them.

7. Clarify the limits when things are calm. When you’re in a situation where your child is disrespectful, that’s not the ideal time to do a lot of talking about limits or consequences. At a later time you can talk with your child about his behavior and what your expectations are.

Related: How to choose consequences that will work for your child.

8. Talk about what happened afterward. If your child is disrespectful or rude, talk about what happened (later, when things are calm) and how it could have been dealt with differently. That’s a chance for you, as a parent, to listen to your child and hear what was going on with her when that behavior happened. Try to stay objective. You can say, “Pretend a video camera recorded the whole thing. What would I see?” This is also a perfect time to have your child describe what she could have done differently.

9. Don’t take it personally. One of the biggest mistakes parents can make is to take their child’s behavior personally. The truth is, you should never fall into that trap because the teenager next door is doing the same thing to his parents, and your cousin’s daughter is doing the same thing to her parents. Your role is to just deal with your child’s behavior as objectively as possible. When parents don’t have effective ways to deal with these kinds of things, they may feel out of control and get scared—and often overreact or under react to the situation. When they overreact, they become too rigid, and when they under react, they ignore the behavior or tell themselves it’s “just a phase.” Either way, it won’t help your child learn to manage his thoughts or emotions more effectively, and be more respectful.

Related: How to be a consistent parent.

Understand that if you haven’t been able to intervene early with your kids, you can start at any time. Even if your child is constantly exhibiting disrespectful behavior, you can begin stepping in and setting those clear limits. And kids really do want limits, even if they protest loudly—and they will. The message that they get when you step in and set limits is that they’re cared about, they’re loved and that you really want them to be successful and able to function well in the world. Our kids won’t thank us now, but that’s okay—it’s not about getting them to thank us, it’s about doing the right thing.

10 Risks Happy People Take Every Day

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“You cannot protect yourself from sadness
without protecting yourself from happiness.”
―Jonathan Foer

I really loved this post…so many great tips on happiness & choices we have….My favorite quote “Needless worry gives small things a big shadow.”…drue dat Marc! if you don’t have time to read the whole article, I emphasized in bold what I thought was most important in each number.

post written by: Marc Chernoff
Almost two decades ago, somewhat as a joke since she tutored me throughout grade school, I asked my grandmother to sign my yearbook. This was her closing paragraph:

“The best thing you can do from this day forward is to follow your intuition. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what could happen. If you do, very little worth remembering will ever happen.”

Years later, as I grew interested in the psychology of happiness, I realized how pertinent my grandmother’s words were. Risk is an inherent part of living a good life. Without taking risks, you cannot truly live… you merely exist. Which is why the happiest among us take small risks every day. Let’s take a look at ten examples, and examine some ideas on how to implement them in your own life.

1. They risk the possibility of being hurt.

As you grow up, you will learn that even the one person who wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will in some small way. You will have your heart broken probably more than once. You too will inadvertently break some hearts, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll occasionally argue with your closest friends. You’ll blame new loves for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you thought you couldn’t live without. This is what happens when you open your heart and mind to the greatest joys of life.

Chuck Palahniuk once said, “The only way to find true happiness in life is to risk being completely cut open.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. Anybody who is capable of living and loving is bound to get hurt at some point, but that’s a risk that’s well worth the reward. The result is a life filled with honesty and love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you’ve never been hurt. Don’t be afraid that your days will end in pain, be afraid they will never begin with honesty and love. Life is too short to let it pass by. Open your heart and mind and live it to the fullest!

2. They risk being real in front of others.

You don’t need everyone to like you. You are a piece of art. Not everyone is going to see your beauty. Ultimately, it’s YOUR opinion of yourself that matters, and if someone doesn’t like it, forget about them. Stop being a people-pleaser all the time, because when you go around pleasing everyone but yourself, you are the one that gets hurt.

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. It’s their loss, not yours. So be careful not to give so much of yourself to others that you end up completely losing yourself. In the end you will know who truly loves you; they’re the ones who respect you for who you are, and no matter what, they stand by your side. Surround yourself with these people.

3. They risk missing out on something new, so they can appreciate what they have.

You will always be missing out on something. You simply can’t have it all. Thus it will always seem like something wonderful might be happening elsewhere. And that’s OK. Let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are at this moment. You have to accept that some things will never be yours, and learn to value the things that are only yours.

What you take for granted, someone else is praying for. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have. Don’t wait until what you HAVE becomes what you HAD. Pause and appreciate all the good things you have in your life right now, as they are happening.

4. They risk helping others without expectations.

As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “The purpose of life is not to simply be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

Happiness doesn’t come through selfishness, but through selflessness. Everything you do comes back around. Greet people with a smile. Encourage them. Compliment them. Notice their progress, cheer them on, and help them smile. Smiles are contagious. The more happiness you help others find in life, the more happiness you will find.

5. They risk taking full responsibility for their own happiness.

Remember, happiness comes from your own choices and actions. Waiting for someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.

So stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t feel. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility and perpetuate the problem. Stop giving your power away and start taking responsibility for your life. Blaming is just another sorry excuse, and making excuses is the first step towards both misery and failure. YOU, and only you, are responsible for your decisions; make a good one right now that your future self will thank you for.

6. They risk the consequences of taking action.

Today is a new day – a new beginning. You have been given this day to use as you please. You can waste it or you can use it for something worthwhile. Either way, what you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. You can’t always wait for the perfect time, because there may be no such thing. Sometimes you must dare to jump.

It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis. Laziness and procrastination may appear attractive, but action leads to happiness. Great challenges make life interesting; overcoming them makes life meaningful. When tomorrow comes, today will be gone forever. In its place will be something that you have left behind. Let it be something worthwhile – something you are thankful for.

7. They risk bearing the discomfort of growth.

Needless worry gives small things a big shadow. In the end, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart, or what’s holding you together. You have to roll with life instead of against it. And sorry for spoiling the ending for you… but everything is going to be OK – you just need to learn a lesson or two first.

Don’t run from the realities of your present struggles. The pain and defeat contained within them are necessary to your long-term growth. Remember, there is a difference between encountering defeats and being defeated. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know to grow.

8. They risk the possibility of failing.

If you are too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to succeed in living a fulfilling life. The key is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Comfort is state of being in which to find rest and renewal for a short time; it is a dreary and dismal place to remain permanently. If you don’t challenge yourself on a regular basis, by taking small steps into unfamiliar territory, your abilities and effectiveness will become stale and weak. The reason life can be so rewarding is precisely because nothing is guaranteed.

Some of your best life experiences and opportunities will come to you only after you dare to lose. When your efforts are met with failure, you know you are on to something; because on the flip-side of that failure is a real, substantial accomplishment that doesn’t come easy. Your failed attempt is simply evidence that you are reaching higher. And “higher” is always the best direction to travel in.

9. They risk being disappointed by accepting the truth.

Down days and disappointments are completely normal, and not something you should feel guilty about having. Happiness is never constant. Surrendering to your sadness, or whatever negative emotion is trying to come to the surface, does not make you a bad person. But remember, if you aren’t sincerely thankful for every smile, don’t be totally shocked by every tear. Keep things in perspective.

Once you embrace unpleasant news, not as a negative but as evidence of a need for positive change, you’re learning from it and growing. Whatever life throws at you, even if it hurts, be strong and fight through it. Remember, strong walls shake but never collapse. Life always offers you another chance… it’s called tomorrow.

10. They risk letting go and starting anew.

Holding on to what’s no longer there holds too many of us back. Some of us spend the majority of our lives recounting the past and letting it steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let the past GO! You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere.

When we continue to repeat a story in our head, as all of us do, we eventually believe that story and embrace it – whether it empowers us or not. So the question is: Does your story empower you? Don’t place your past mishaps on your mind, their weight may crush your current potential. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view the horizon. Remember, all things are difficult before they are easy. What matters the most is what you start doing now.

Next steps…

Remember, what counts the most is not what you learned by reading this article, but how you apply the knowledge. You must take action. So start small, but start now.

Choose one of the ten points above that speaks to you and practice working on it today, tomorrow and every day for the next few months. Eventually, one day, without even thinking about it you’ll start doing it automatically. And you’ll suddenly realize that your diligent practice has evolved into a permanent, internalized habit of happiness.

What I Know For Sure Now, But Didn’t At 16 Years Old!

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Things I would like to tell my niece, my friend’s son & any pre-teen or teen on surviving Grade 6 to Grade 12 with self-esteem.

Here are a few tidbits of wisdom I wished I would have known cuz they are darn important in the art of survival in adolesence:

Comparison is the thief of joy. You are enough. Exactly the way you are, right here, right now.

Here’s a concept:
Forward (onward so as to make progress) expansion (the act of becoming bigger or of making something bigger) is inevitable. The question is: Are you expanding toward the light (love, acceptance, hope), or are you expanding toward the dark (fear, doubt, rage, negativity)?

Mistakes can be one of the most valuable lessons in life, and do not be afraid to fail, because it’s in those moments — the ones where we get back up and dust off our tushies — that we’re aware of our true selves, our true essence, our true spirit.

The importance of joy in your life is Uber important, exploring joy, feeding joy, growing your internal happiness.

I encourage you to:
Be yourself, no matter what and please don’t dim your light to make others more comfortable.

Never give up on your dreams!

Be Kind, it’s an easy buzz.

Have you ever tried a handstand (of course you have)…Did you know that kindness can be every bit as powerful as standing on your hands, because both cause your body to release endorphins.

Choose Joy

Laughter is food for the soul

Don’t forget to feed your own soul

Peace Out Important Little People! xo

10 Truths All Healthy People Know

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Really good article…couldn’t have said it better!

By Dr. Amy Shah

Like you, and thousands of others, I am on a journey toward optimal health. Along the way, I’ve realized that there is no traditional definition of this lifestyle. It’s not strictly paleo, vegan, vegetarian, Mediterranean, flexitarian etc. In fact, it’s so much more.

How do you know if you are part of the new healthy?

These are 10 of the characteristics of the New Healthy:

1. You want to live actively into your 90s.

The life expectancy worldwide is 70 and rising. However, what really matters is how functional we are in our later years. I want to be walking, running, playing, bending all into my last days. Many of my choices today have that long-term goal in mind.

2. You don’t freak out about calories.

Seriously, who wants to track calories and worry about tallying them? Talk about taking the joy out of eating! As we all know, calories are not all equal, so a simple calculation of calories is very misleading (and obsessive).

3. You don’t always believe what the FDA, USDA, or big brands tell you.

Not everyone is invested in your health. In fact, many big name food manufacturers try to sell you products that are addictive or known (and in fact, designed) to cause cravings. Don’t believe me? Read this.

4. You’re not a slave to the scale.

As you know, muscle weighs more than fat, so you might weigh more when you build more muscle. Being a slave to the scale will send you on an emotional roller coaster.

5. You incorporate weight training.

Gone are the days where we do cardio everyday without ever doing weight-bearing exercise. You need it for your bones, your metabolism, and more.

6. You know that fat is not evil.

The New Healthy are intimately familiar with avocados, coconuts, omega-3’s, and favorable fats. It’s the type of fat that matters.

7. You know that living an organic lifestyle is not just for hippies anymore.

“Organic” used to mean wearing Birkenstocks and living a fringe lifestyle. Now, with all the information we have, it’s a fairly mainstream practice to eat organic. While I am not 100% organic, I work toward incorporating local, organic food as much as possible.

8. You won’t starve to look good.

NO ONE, man or woman, wants to be hungry all the time! Anyone who knows a model or actor knows that starving is almost part of the job description. It’s also the theory behind most popular diet plans.

9. You realize curing disease starts with you.

Rather than relying purely on medications and doctors, we take action by cleaning up our diet, exercising, sleeping, and using supplements. We identify our problems instead of just relying on someone to magically cure us.

10. You believe that health is equally about mind and spirit as it is about fitness

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